This post might not seem closely related to Darwin, and I am aware of the tendency to deride folks who make too big a claim for all-embracing theories. I get that. However, this is about something really important, namely sexual chaos and its costly repercussions in many spheres of life, from mental health and child abuse to crime, the tax and benefit system and housing.
We all act on our beliefs, that is axiomatic. This is equally true for a sincere Christian gritting his teeth and forgiving somebody who hates him as Jesus commanded as it is for a sexual abuser of children who believes that he has the right to follow his urges. He must believe that or he would not do it. Unless, perhaps he is a passive agent of deterministic forces beyond his control. In which case, you might think, why criticise him?
When I was young, just a small child growing up, I listened
daily to pop music on the radio and TV, as did most people I knew. Every now and then
a new singer would emerge on to the scene with something quite impactful, a song would strongly impact public consciousness. One
such was Engelbert
Humperdinck who came to glory with the song ‘Release Me’, a plea for divorce on the grounds that 'I don't love you any more'. A song
with a similar message that was given a lot of air time around the same era was
’24 hours from Tulsa’ by Gene
Pitney. Both songs were sung from the point of view of a married man who
has decided to abandon his faithful wife because of an infatuation with another
women. Perhaps, we aren’t told, a younger, prettier one who is not worn out
with child bearing and care.
I was a pre-teen when these songs came out, and it’s only
now looking back that I can see how disturbed I was by them, and why. I was
used to my mother and father both being there. The idea that husbands and
wives, mummies and daddies, sometimes got fed up with each other or, as Pitney
sung ‘...love
somebody new.’ Was extremely disturbing. But for some, no doubt, the song
opened up possibilities, which as the statistics show, many acted upon. Every
known study shows that children do worse in single parent families. A huge
amount of child abuse is carried out by ‘Mum’s latest boyfriend’. Divorced
people live shorter and less happy lives. So why do we allow the culture to
reinforce the stereotype that Pitney and Humperdinck sung about, when the songs
should have been execrated?
I should stress that while these 2 particular songs are
strong exemplars, and remain stuck in my head from when I was very young, they
were by no means unique. A huge stream of thought in popular song from Sinatra
to Hendrix and beyond speaks of ‘love’ or ‘being in love’ as an emotion that happens
to us, like a viral infection, and takes us where it will, with us having no
choice in the matter. The Pitney song is particular strong in this idea of the
force of nature which overwhelms us, do check the lyrics if you don’t know
them. The protagonist of the song (and I do know that it is not necessarily
Pitney himself) proclaims, as he excuses his behaviour,
“Oh
the jukebox started to play
and nightime turned into day as we were dancing closely
all of a sudden I lost control as I held her charms
and I caressed her, kissed her
told her I'd die before I let her out of my arms.”
and nightime turned into day as we were dancing closely
all of a sudden I lost control as I held her charms
and I caressed her, kissed her
told her I'd die before I let her out of my arms.”
So let’s get this straight. On a business trip,
a married man meets a woman by chance and becomes overwhelmed by such strong
passions that his marriage vows are set at nothing. The wife who has (perhaps)
surrendered her precious virginity to him, borne him children, made their home,
made allowances for his weaknesses, washed the skid marks on his underpants,
she is now redundant. His message to her is, stuff happens, I’ve moved on-live
with it.
I was horrified. What if my dad behaved like that? He used to travel away from home, what if he told Mum he didn't love her anymore and had found somebody new? I was too afraid to talk about it. I believe those thoughts damaged me significantly in terms of creating insecurity.
Again, what has this to do with evolution?
Quite a lot. First, there is the idea of biological determinism which springs
from Darwinianism. We are passive agents of our genes. There is no such thing as free will.
On a cruder level, men
are the slaves of their penises-the biological urge to impregnate is all important and takes precedence over any 'hypocritical Victorian moral taboos' etc. Get rid of all that 'thou shalt not' God stuff
Evolutionism dethrones God. Instead
of Jesus’ firm command that a man and women shall stay faithful to each other on pain of God's extreme displeasure,
we have Aleister Crowley’s ‘Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law’.
If there is no creator, then there is no lawgiver or judge and we are
autonomous beings answerable to ourselves, bags of impure carbon which as Dawkins preaches only exist to pass on our genes. Of course he has been married 3 times. If this life is all there is, and
pleasure the only thing worth having, then why do deferred gratification or deny
our souls anything they crave? As the atheist poet A E Housman wrote
‘It is in truth iniquity on high
To cheat our sentenced souls of aught they
crave
And mar the merriment as you and I
Fare on our long fool’s-errand to the grave’
(A E Housman, last poems, IX)
In other words, eat, drink, fornicate, betray, excuse yourself with a shrug of the shoulders
and be merry, for the day after tomorrow our atoms will be meaninglessly mingled with dust in the heat death
of the universe. If it feels good, do it.
Friends, you can’t run a successful civilisation on
those lines.
I am grateful to my parents for keeping their marriage vows even
when it was difficult. They believed in a God whose authority to command us derives from the fact that he created us in wisdom and love, and who rewards faithfulness and
punishes betrayal and sexual immorality. Now children are being taught that, as
we are just evolved pond slime on a vector between the big bang and the heat
death of the universe, we may as well play around and have fun while we can. The sexual free for all has been legitimised and bankrolled by the State. We hear little about the manifold harms it causes since journalists and politicians are up to their elbows in it themselves. Peter Hitchens writes a lot about this, atheism is necessary to get rid of sexual guilt so we can indulge ourselves freely, like the protagonists of these 2 songs and others like them, and of course evolutionism is foundational to atheism.
God created us for faithful, lifelong
marriage between a man and a woman, this really matters a lot. No wonder the
agents of Satan wage war against faithful married love. The perversion of same
sex so called marriage is only a continuation of the long war of attrition that
has been going on since at least the 2 wicked, harmful songs, cruel I mention above.
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